Hey guys! I haven’t posted one of these more “motivational” type posts in a while, and this topic has been on my mind quite a bit recently, so I decided to I’d share my thoughts on this with you guys today. 🙂
Self Care. Those have been big words for the past year or so. The self care trend has been huge. But as Christian teen girls and women, should we really focus on ourselves or should we be focusing completely on others. Or is there some balance. It’s very confusing.
Yes, You Should Take Care Of Yourself..
Let me preface by saying that I think it’s super important to take care of ourselves. Jesus himself needed time to rest and pray. There are multiple times in the Bible where Jesus goes alone to “rest and pray” (Mark 1:35, Mark 6:31-32, are just a few examples)
I really think that “rest and pray” is the key. We are both soul and body, therefore both our soul and are body need time to rest. I think that’s where most of us start going wrong. We kind of go to far with our bodies, and not enough with our soul.
I mean, it makes sense. It might be easier to go buy candles and face masks, instead of study our Bible.
But like I said a minute ago, we are both soul and body, our body needs rest, and our soul needs rest.
And Yes, You Should Be Serving Others..
There are so many Bible verses about how we should be serving others, and how we should be selfless.
I see a lot of quotes about how we should be putting our needs above everyone else, and that we are basically the most important thing in the entire world.
That’s not true: We are made to serve and love God, but also to fill ourselves by resting and prayer. As I mentioned above, Jesus himself took intentional time for rest and prayer. Yet Jesus wasn’t selfish.
Do nothing in selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves.Philippians 2:3
This means that we shouldn’t think that we or our needs are more important than everyone else.
The thing is, if we are so focused on ourselves that we cannot even see other people, that’s when we go to far.
I think a lot of people mistake self care as being selfish, and as we know, being selfish is not biblical, but taking care of our bodies and souls is.
It’s a hard line, because nobody wants to think of themselves of selfish, yet at least I know that I’m selfish sometimes.
I’ll be honest, it’s a lot easier to just sit in my room, than to go and help my siblings. It’s easier to just let “someone else” do the work. That’s where selfishness comes into play.
If we’re honest we don’t really need every spare minute of our time to ourselves. We have plenty of time to be helpful, to do ministry, etc.
Next time when you’re in a situation of choosing to be selfless or selfish, ask yourself honestly if you really need this time to yourself. And the truth is, maybe you do. But in truth, most of the time we could spend time for ourselves later, and do the work now.
Ask yourself “WWJD” (what would Jesus do), in a certain situation. Would he go rest and pray, or would he serve the other?
Many times Jesus will rest and pray when all the days work is done, but there are a few times where he “left the crowd behind” and went to rest and pray. (Mark 6:30-32)
It is our responsibility to take care of our God-given self, but it is also our responsibility to love others. Taking care of ourselves isn’t selfish in itself, (in fact, it’s necessary) but taking it to the point of us believing that we are the most important (or only) thing there is to care about in the world, is selfishness.
I hope this was helpful to you guys, and I’ll just let you know now: This is my perspective on self-care. Yours may be similar, or exact opposite, that’s fine. This is how I’ve interpreted my own readings in the Bible, and other articles I’ve read.
Have a wonderful day guys!